I think many would agree, seventh grade for a young girl can be challenging. Today a young client came in and she shared that she sat alone at lunch. Breaks my heart. It makes me want to return to school just to be friendly to all. Anyway, after a hard lunch of sitting alone - AGAIN. She wrote on her hand .. u r not cool. She came in and told me this was on her hand. We talked about the hurt of sitting alone at lunch and then the added pain of being so mean to herself and writing negative messages on her hand about herself. Ouch! So, I pulled out three choices of soap for her to choose from ... different fun scents - cherry, strawberry, and apple! She chose cherries. I then invited her to go wash her hand off. Get rid of that negative message about herself. We then played some pretty music and I shared some positive qualities I saw in her and then said - its even more powerful when we feel and recognize our own strengths. She wrote something else on her hand. I love horses. Simple but a good start in seeing her inner strengths, likes, and uniqueness. We pulled out a page that we labeled Celebrating ___________ (her name). I invited her to have this list be to 25 positives by next week. She smiled her beautiful smile as she left.
I savored this experience.