One of Kendall's teachers, I think third grade, had the saying - Fun isn't fun unless its fun for everyone. It was a good message for third graders and a good message for all that has become a saying in our house for nearly 20 years! I have been reflecting on the difference of two recent experiences.
I have some dear friends that are so kind and caring and also when I am laughing about something silly that I have done they laugh with me. I have one in particular that I will text her at times to let her know what I did that just was funny. For instance the other day, Steve dropped me off at the office right by the door. I ran into the office with some items and then came right back out for us to leave. In the meantime, he had turned around the car (actually being helpful easier access). However, I didn't realize that and so went over to the driver's side to get in - which was the passenger side when I got dropped off. He asked me if I'd like to drive :). Steve and I laughed and I later shared the funny experience with a friend. She was laughing with me. It was pretty funny. Daily there are little silly things that happen to each of us - blind or not.
Another experience that was such a contrast. A man came in to be interviewed. He saw Cricket and I explained that she was a guide dog because I was blind. He said in a tone that felt ouch -- oh, does that mean I get to tell blind jokes? It was interesting to feel how unfunny/put down that felt.
I thought of Kendall's teacher teaching her class that fun isn't fun unless its fun for everyone. She was trying to teach them that when we laugh with someone it is fun ... when we laugh at someone or a group it isn't funny at all.
Now, don't get me wrong. Humor and playfulness are one of the character strengths that we will be talking about in our seminar tomorrow. "You like to laugh and tease. Bringing smiles to other people is important to you. You try to see the light side of all situations." I think we just need to make sure that fun is fun when its fun for everyone :). Thanks Mrs. E for teaching your third graders an important life message.