It is an amazing experience to see a client begin to love and accept themselves. When I accept myself as I am, I have the space to move forward.
Recently, a client wrote a compassionate letter to herself,
Dear _____, When you first came to see Becky you were lost, empty, unable to function. You felt alot of loss in every way. Stripped of so much. Not wanting to live anymore, just really be invisible because that is how you felt! So much pain! ...
Now, there is a sense of acceptance, love of self and others and a closeness to God and yourself. Consciously being in the present time, being grateful - not just saying it but feeling it...
Keep on keeping on.
Can you see why I love my work! Amazing experience to experience this journey with someone.
This cnocept of loving-kindness to self can be a unique concept. Isn't that selfish? Shouldn't I focus on others?
As Dr. Gerner states in his book, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion:
Self-kindness is to connect with our common wish to be happy, not to aggrandize the 'self', which only causes more misery. When we recognize within ourselves the instinct for self-care, we're more inclined to see it in others and to work for their welfare as well. If we active warmth and love within ourselves, we can often talk ourselves through difficult times. Self-kindness is not where the process stops -- it's the beginning.